You Are Not Your Emotions


By Gregory Toole

Our emotions can be so intense that it is sometimes difficult to see them as anything other than who we are, or to realize that, in our interconnectedness with others, some of our emotions are a pulse on what’s taking place in the collective consciousness. I often have to remind myself of the latter. My own sensitivity plugs me into quite a full spectrum of emotions and I am still learning to distinguish between what is directly mine and what I’m perceiving in the greater experience of humanity.

Many people, including this author, have used the words feeling and emotion interchangeably.

In the fields of psychology and neuroscience, there seems to be general agreement among some that emotions are the more temporary states we experience such as sadness or anger, while feelings are more rooted in who we are and how we respond over time to our experiences. Feelings are more tied into our values and beliefs, while emotions are more hardwired to particular events, such as the experience of sadness when someone close to us passes. Our feelings of love for humanity, for example, would generally endure over time because they are connected into our beliefs and values, and who we are in our authentic essence.

Philosopher Ernest Holmes wrote, “No matter what our emotional storm, or what our objective situation, may be, there is always a something hidden in the inner being that has never been violated.”

Seeing the difference between our emotions, which are temporary, and our feelings, which are more long lasting, may give us clarity with regard to how to be with each of them.

With the principles of manifesting we learn to cultivate some feeling states more than others in order to align with the vibration of what we want to attract. In doing so, we need not resist our various momentary emotions. Instead we may allow the free flow of emotions while consciously choosing what to do with them, usually just allowing them to pass. Then we choose which feelings to cultivate, in order to align us with what we are consciously choosing to experience.

Using this same concept, we could look at an emotion, such as fear, as temporary, so we can make conscious choices about what we want to do with it. For example, we could take fear into worry, which is a more ongoing state, or we could examine the fear and look at what practical steps might be possible, as well as make some choices about how we want to look at the fear. Often there are things we can do to transcend the emotion of fear once we see what is causing it, such as breaking a goal into smaller, more manageable steps.

In any case, emotions provide a wonderful feedback mechanism as we navigate our environment. Recognizing that they are temporary allows us to not give them undue power in our lives. Being aware that our feelings have much to do with what meaning we give to emotions invites us to be more conscious about how we interpret and process the various emotions we experience.

Here’s to celebrating those beautiful aspects of us known as our emotions and feelings.

Enjoy the journey.

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